[Latina]

You know it's the Open Golf Championship when some rich tosser parks their Jag in my parking space. Admittedly I don't have a car, but had been planning to let my parents use it on the days they're spectating, as spaces are currently scarce in St Andrews. Whichever house the person is staying in (assuming it's one of the houses in my court - I saw an ad for £3,000 rent during Open Week for one of them!!), there is a space for them, and if they have two cars then tough sh*t. They 'll have to find somewhere else or make an arrangement with a neighbour that has theirs to offer. That's my space.

I left a note on the car last night (cleverly protected from the rain as I put it in plastic) but it's still there so they mustn't have seen it yet. If there's no change by tonight - as Dad's got a ticket for the golf tomorrow - then I'm putting notes through letterboxes.

[Nicola_Red]

I've gone into mental over-analysis mode. I need to have a word with myself.

[DevilsDuck]

being the only man at a ladies only tea-party! 30+ women........sorry......old women.....and me!

Thank you mrs duck!

[Yudster]

If it was so awful, why not go out? Annoying me is people who moan about avoidable situations that they didn't bother to avoid in order to be able to moan about them. That and my headache.

[DevilsDuck]

it was at a friends house and my wife has two broken bones in her left foot! I hate people who are angry at the world!

[foot-loose]

Zing!

[Yudster]

it was at a friends house and my wife has two broken bones in her left foot! I hate people who are angry at the world!

The world is fine, its the idiots in it that annoy me. You aren't actually one of them by the way, all recent appearances to the contrary - you know that anyway.

[DevilsDuck]

[Jill]

Annoying me today is that all of our systems/server at work have gone down and we can't do anything, no Internet(using iPhone at mo) no printing, emails etc. I've got tons to do but can't do it. An engineer is coming 'early afternoon'. Argh!

[Munki Bhoy]

Funny thing is, if that happened to me I'd have a million and one things to do. Which would be infinitely better than what I'm doing now!

[dimtimjim]

Redundancies announced at my place today. 5 out of 120, so not a massive cull, but still.

unfortunately i'm in the 'def won't be effected' camp, which is causing some hostilities amongst a few others in the 'it could be you' camp.....

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

Redundancies announced at my place today. 5 out of 120, so not a massive cull, but still.

unfortunately i'm in the 'def won't be effected' camp, which is causing some hostilities amongst a few others in the 'it could be you' camp.....

Its a horrible time when you have to talk about people you know in terms of figures of how much you would save if they went. Its pretty much all I do at the moment.

[Boboff]

Agreed, not nice.

[chrysostom]

argh.

after 3 weeks, still no word from the ex. this isn't a problem on an emotional level, but i've paid the last month's rent and am owed half of it, the sky bills are going through, and the water/electric.

£650
£55
£11
£13.

so i'm owed half of this, and the last 3 i can expect to come out of the joint account again next month, which is ENTIRELY my money at the moment.

even the sky hasn't been reduced from the premium package we were on.

i've just been leaving a text every couple of days explaining the situation with no emotive language in it.

i just want to * leave everything about her behind and she's burying her head so that i can't.

[dimtimjim]

Sounds like a 'spade to the face' scenario to me!

[chrysostom]

Sounds like a 'spade to the face' scenario to me!

lord bless you.

[MK Chris]

Did she not say she was going to be paying half? Can you speak to her parents about it? If she's not sticking to her side of the bargain, I think I would do what someone else said and get a strongly worded letter from a solicitor. She sounds like a complete bitch.

[Yudster]

You need to get her moving somehow - a solicitor's letter might just give her the kick she seems to need. I don't like her.

[Nicola_Red]

No, me neither. He was an aggressively jealous whiny little bitch, but at least my ex settled everything financial fairly when we split.

[MK Chris]

Cat just made a good point in the chat room - if you go to her employers and tell them that they owe you money, they may well be inclined to step in and sort it out... my dad did this with an ex-lodger and the employer made sure he paid the money back.

[chrysostom]

i may have to. things have gotten worse. shan't post it all in here, but it's on the blog if you're curious http://andrewchrysostom.blogspot.com/

[Johnny 1989]

Sorry to hear you're still getting all this shite, I really hope things work out for you soon, you ex is a selfish little bitch in my opinion, she will get her comeuppance, trust me, people like that always do.

[Yudster]

i may have to. things have gotten worse. shan't post it all in here, but it's on the blog if you're curious http://andrewchrysostom.blogspot.com/

I don't think you have any option, you have to get legal on her arse. The only alternative is to enter into personal engagement which will mean confrontation - which might work, but you shouldn't have to do it and you don't WANT to do it, so don't do it.

Its a fairly simple situation (from a legal standpoint) and shouldn't be a costly one to resolve. If you have access to a solicitor at a Citizen's Advice Bureau it will probably be completely free. Otherwise many legal firms will offer low-cost services for situations like this.

I know its horrible to have to go through such nonsense, but she's clearly far too self-absorbed to have a clue what she is about, she's behaving like a four year old who has no concept of personal responsibility. As such, there's no point in expecting her to behave reasonably, she isn't going to. She might not even understand what it means. So do it - and once its done, its done. You will have some sort of closure, and the opportunity to - when you're ready - get on with the next part of your life.

All the best.

[chrysostom]

thank you to be honest, i was a bit worried about the legal side (partly because it's scary to think that i'll have to resort to it) - but also because i'm quite clueless when it comes to the logistics and cost.

unfortunately as you said - i'll have to. given that she's moved on so quickly, i think that's given me the impetus to take some action to get what i'm owed. right now i'm just so angry that she's thrust me into all mannar of situations, which she doesn't have to deal with.

venting helps.

[Yudster]

One of the reasons that legal action would be good is because not only does it get you what you are owed, it puts her in exactly the situation she thought she had successfully avoided - ie HAVING to deal with it, face on. Its a very elegant form of revenge - and lets not be prissy here, that would be nice wouldn't it?