[chrysostom]

That's slightly different though I guess - It's not like Toph's mum was far away from everyone else, but if she wanted low key then...fair enough? Not sure how I'd feel in that situation, but then again I don't know Toph's mum!

It couldn't be done in our family - there'd be way too many people who would be offended at not being invited.

[Nicola_Red]

Yeah, that's what I worry about. One of my cousins had a massive strop that his dad, who is retired and lives in Spain, couldn't afford to come back to the UK for his wedding. It might even still be going on for all I know.

[dimtimjim]

she casually said 'so do you want to know what I did today? I got married...'

Erm, wow. Blimey Toph. Not wanting to diss ya Ma, but that doesn't sound like the most well thought out mothering ever... Trying to think what I'd do/think in that situation... Odd.

I think I'd be both gutted to have missed it, but more so let down my own Ma didn't think to mention summat like that to me first.

And, there is a big difference between not being invited due to numbers/cost and not being told about it at all until past tense.

Sorry Toph.

[MK Chris]

Well, clearly if she'd asked me to be there then I would have done, but it's their wedding and they can do it any which way they like - I think it's really nice - there's no way she'd have done it any other way, minimal fuss is the way she likes it. The thing is that between them they have six kids and I think only two of them (my brother and I) would have been able to hold it in. The only person they told well in advance is my aunt because she had to book the time off to be a witness - even the other witness, Steve's mum was only asked the night before!

She was worried about telling us in case we were annoyed at not being told, but no one was, not even my sister. I was slightly more offended that she thought I'd be offended...!

[dimtimjim]

Well, if you're ok with it, thats the main thing...

[MK Chris]

I don't see how I could be anything else - I very strongly believe that your wedding should be what you and your partner want and no one else.

[chrysostom]

I think because of my cultural background, I see it very differently, and that it should be a coming together of two families (or in the broader sense - the two social groups of the individuals) to celebrate their union.

Because I have such a large extended family, the opportunity to get them all together is something quite unique and emotional - which now days is only really possible at times like these celebrations (as everyone is so far away). I consider the period after a wedding ceremony to be a celebration for everyone else (of the couple) , but molded in the way the couple wants.

But it's horses for courses, and everyone does things differently!

[Nicola_Red]

I don't see how I could be anything else - I very strongly believe that your wedding should be what you and your partner want and no one else.

I totally agree with that, but I still have the sneaking feeling I'd be disappointed. I guess I'm unlikely to ever know though, as my parents are still together and both in their 60s now so the chances of them splitting and re-marrying are remote (although still possible obviously).

[dimtimjim]

as my parents are still together and both in their 60s now so the chances of them splitting and re-marrying are remote (although still possible obviously).

Don't be counting chickens. My Grandpa left my Granny post-60... Living it up now the old codger!

[Nicola_Red]

Ha! Actually my parents did split up when I was 16. It lasted about six weeks. Then they got back together, my dad moved back in and it was literally never spoken of again.

[dimtimjim]

Yeah, but what a six weeks he had! (I imagine..!)

Still got the memories and the tube of 'itch cream'.

[Nicola_Red]

actually it was my mum who was having an affair.

[dimtimjim]

Aaah, thats where ya get it from...!

[bmstinton93]

I was just about to say exactly the same.

[Nicola_Red]

I'm single, how could I be having affairs..?

[chrysostom]

Sorry to butt in, but my Nando's stamp just arrived. I now have a license to print chicken.

[MK Chris]

Wait... does this mean you can stamp your own loyalty card things? If so you must bring it round.

[dimtimjim]

I'm single, how could I be having affairs..?

It not jus' you who needs to be single to avoid affairs!!

[Yudster]

Topher, I have always had a feeling that your mum and me would get on really well - now I am absolutely certain of it! All the best to her and Steve, and good on them for prioritising their marriage and their wishes for their wedding over any expectations other people might have. When all's said and done its about BEING married, not GETTING married- and if you don't feel the need for a fanfare to announce it, you shouldn't feel pressured to have one.

[chrysostom]

Putting £10 on Torres to score next at 25/1 when he came on. Makes up for the lack of bonus I'm getting this quarter!

[Bonanzoid]

25/1!? That's a ridiculously good price!

[dimtimjim]

If you get stuck, we have a binder machine here...

[SAV1OUR]

Alex Salmond doing a spectacular U-turn by not now appearing on Thursday's question time.

Oops..

[The Deadly]

Working out and eating lots of protein!!!!

[chrysostom]

Working out and eating lots of protein!!!!