[Ed Pummelon]

If you were eating a Kit Kat and got struck by lightning, which would melt first, you or the Kit Kat?

[Yudster]

Eating a kit kat CAN kill you. It generally doesn't though. People don't call them "extreme snacks" though.

Nothing wrong with thunder and lightning.

But the point is that eating a kit kat isn't inherently dangerous, and there are precautions you can take to prevent any danger - and actions you can take should an accident occur. This is NOT the case with thunder and lightning. You are silly if you treat genuinely dangerous things as entertaining trivialities.

[S4B]

Ok so not annoyed - yet - but feeling quite sorry for myself and bemused as to why someone who I thought I knew and who I would've trusted with my life could turn on me like this.



I guess I'm trying to say that I trust too easily and if any of you trust like I do then STOP IT NOW!!

[Ed Pummelon]

Without knowing the circumstances (or needing to), please know you'll get through whatever caused this, and I wish you the best. Take care.

[S4B]

Thanks Ed

[Munki Bhoy]

Unless there's some amazing story (which is none of my business) or it was an accident (which I doubt given your statement) I would hope you're having nothing more to do with this person.

And I hope that heals up pretty quickly.

[S4B]

Amazing story? Not really.

We'd had a fabulous day, a fun day, we'd had such a laugh. He went out for a few hours - to pay off a debt with my money - saying it was fine for me to crash there and he'd come back later and we'd do something fun. He sent me a text a couple of hours later telling me he'd rather I left. I wanted to know why so I waited in for him. He came back in a weird mood with a friend of his and after some random conversation during which I was confused and upset about him not wanting to see me anymore he just looked at me and said "Do you know what I'll give you a * memorable night so you never forget me" Then he lost it. I am a bit fuzzy on what happened then but trust me the eye is one of the nicer bruises I have. I managed to get out and call the police who were fabulous.

Sorry guys, I know I look like I'm attention seeking and maybe I am to a certain extent. I'm just trying to rationalise what happened and I really can't. I know I should've left when he sent me the text and none of this would've happened but I wanted to know why. Does that make sense? In a stupid S4 way?

[catherine]

Hmm. Are you sleeping with him? Is he on drugs? Why are you paying off his debts?

[Ed Pummelon]

Of course you can't rationalise it - it's totally irrational, don't bother trying. Based on what you've written, you did something normal, understandable, and not unexpected. He then did something abnormal, abhorrent and inexcusable.

It's easy to say this without knowing the full story, so forgive me if I'm being presumptious, but my advice would be to walk away and don't look back. No reprisals, no questions why - look straight ahead and keep going. Scum like that will get their comeuppance sooner or later - let life take care of him, and you take care of yourself.

[S4B]

Hmm. Are you sleeping with him? Is he on drugs? Why are you paying off his debts?

Not recently but I have in the past

Occasionally he is - don't think he had that night

Because I help out my mates and I am generally stupid.

Ed I know I should just walk away and try and forget but it's soo hard. I never thought I'd understand how battered women feel or why they go back but I think I kind of do now. I promise I'm never going back but I think it's gonna take a while to get him out of my mind.

[MK Chris]

If the eye is one of the lesser bruises - from my limited knowledge - I'd say it was grounds for ABH as opposed to common assault, so why he only got a caution is quite beyond me. The guy should be in prison, but I guess if he's got no previous, then they think a slap on the wrist is OK. It's a particular bugbear of mine.

That said - and I completely understand why you would be feeling that way yourself - I don't really think telling people not to trust anyone is helpful to yourself or anyone else. This guy is clearly a * - regardless of whether or not he's done it before (and you don't really know that, all you know is he hasn't done it to you) - but that doesn't make everyone else a * too.

[Yudster]

Its got nothing to do with being a trusting person, its to do with being a person who trusts the wrong people.

[catherine]

It sounds drug like, especially seeing as you had just given him money.

Hope you get well soon.

[Ed Pummelon]

Ed I know I should just walk away and try and forget but it's soo hard. I never thought I'd understand how battered women feel or why they go back but I think I kind of do now. I promise I'm never going back but I think it's gonna take a while to get him out of my mind.

I'd say that's pretty normal, but sometimes you just have to get the actions right, and the brain will usually follow, sooner or later. This is one of those situations where it's definitely better to let the head rule the heart.

[S4B]

Thanks guys. I feel like such a statistic right now. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself.

[S4B]

Uh oh! What have they done??

By the way. now trying not to feel so sorry for myself! Looking for eye patches and parrots for work on Monday!

[S4B]

hmmm Have they said it will all sort itself out yet?

[MK Chris]

I completely agree. These freaks who say "ooh I love a good thunderstorm" are complete twassocks. That stuff can kill you you know - and if its going to, there is NOTHING you can do about it. You can't run away, you can't hide, you can protect yourself to an extent but most of the time you are totally vulnerable. THUNDERSTORMS AND EXTREME WEATHER CAN KILL YOU AND THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT! Why do people think its some sort of game??!!

I know what you're saying, but if there's nothing you can do, then I don't really see what the point is in worrying about it.

Anyway, what brought me back to this post was the fact that we've got the works here at the moment, a proper storm - although it seems to be subsiding now - and my boss was telling me about his daughter's sports day the other week. Apparently it was in the afternoon and the weather had been threatening to rain all day and all the parents got there and everyone assembled outside for the start and they got thunder, lightning, the lot. The headteacher - I repeat, headteacher - apparently said "right everyone, it'll be over in a while, just all gather under that tree over there until it goes". It had to be pointed out to her that was probably not the best idea. Academic knowledge != common sense.

[Zoot]

It's throwing it down here too. We had a little bit of thunder but no lightning just yet. I'm sure we'll get flood warnings soon.

[Yudster]

I know what you're saying, but if there's nothing you can do, then I don't really see what the point is in worrying about it.

The idea that sudden and unavoidable death is something that you needn't worry about is unrealistic.

[jocky85]

Yep we've had it too - had to go out earlier to get lunch and got drenched. Only just dried off and now got to head back out in it to get home!!

[English Bob]

We got torrential rain here this afternoon. It actually started coming through the roof! Cheap roof + no recent repairs + torrential rain + poor guttering = indoor waterfalls!

[English Bob]

I meant to put that was at work by the way....not in my house.

[Latina]

I'm about to walk home. Slightly scared!...

[Johnny 1989]

Sorry to hear about your troubles S4B, hopefully you get this tosser out of your life once & for all.