New Life

[bmstinton93]

As far as the biological father is concerned, whether he wants to be involved or whether Katie WANTS him involved are secondary to the fact that he is RESPONSIBLE. Therefore involved or not, he should be required to provide support, if only financial.

he won't have many finances anyway and she knows she will cope far better without him walking in and out of his life. I'm not quite sure what point you're trying to make there really. :/

[Yudster]

I wasn't really making a point as regards your situation Ben. Its something I strongly believe, in a general sense, but I know that it isn't a "one size fits all" application. Katie obviously needs to do whatever she feels is best with regard to this man - but if he wants to be involved in his child's life and upbringing he has every right to insist on it so shutting him out completely might be more tricky that you both realise. I hope it doesn't come to that.

[bmstinton93]

Tbh I know it's a simple view but as I look at it if he wants involvement enough now he'll take her to court. If he does that then I can't see any of us fighting to him as thats a big enough statement to show you want involvement. But then on the other hand if he doesn't take her to court or try anything like that then he obviously doesn't care enough. That's a very simple way of looking at things but there seems to be some sense in that thinking for me right now.

[Yudster]

I think you're right not to want to complicate things any more than they are.

[Nicola_Red]

I have really strong semen. I managed to successfully beat the pill!

The pill is 99% effective when taken correctly, so that's pretty good work.

[Yudster]

Its the "when taken correctly" you need to be aware of. I would be prepared to bet that in almost all if not all cases where women on the pill have become pregnant, they haven't taken it correctly or used additional contraception when indicated (ie if they have certain illnesses which reduce the effectiveness of the pill). Don't care how strong your lads are Deadly, if there's no egg there to fertilise they're as useless as the ones that swim backwards.

[The Deadly]

We should experiment and see if what I have is still strong.

[Yudster]

Not now dear. You've got a headache.

[The Deadly]

You can't even follow me back on Twitter let alone get sexy........ You make me feel unloved.

[bmstinton93]

Its the "when taken correctly" you need to be aware of. I would be prepared to bet that in almost all if not all cases where women on the pill have become pregnant, they haven't taken it correctly or used additional contraception when indicated (ie if they have certain illnesses which reduce the effectiveness of the pill). Don't care how strong your lads are Deadly, if there's no egg there to fertilise they're as useless as the ones that swim backwards.

That's what happened with Katie. She forgot to take it once.

You can't even follow me back on Twitter let alone get sexy........ You make me feel unloved.

Don't worry, she doesn't follow me either.

[Yudster]

I don't like too much activity in my Twitter feed. I follow very few people and only allow people who I know (know who they are I mean) or who share an interest with me to follow me. And I always make sure that I am following fewer people than I follow - it makes me feel special. #sad

[charlalottie]

Talking of Twitter, I've just noticed your sig!

[Yudster]

Couldn't let that one go un-noticed could I?!

[bmstinton93]

Lottie's sig seem a bit weird right now...

[charlalottie]

Its not really, just normal Bournemouth behaviour.

[bmstinton93]

Talking of the pill, is the injection 100% effective as a form of contraception?

[The Deadly]

From what I am told the only 100% method of contraception is not to have sex at all. According to my girlfriend the implant or injection are the nearest to 100% though.

[Nicola_Red]

No, tubal ligation (aka sterilisation), which is what I have, is the nearest to 100% at 99.5. You are correct that the only 100% method is abstinence.

[DevilsDuck]

From what I am told the only 100% method of contraception is not to have sex at all.

I don't want to sound like badger... But... Buggery!

[Nicola_Red]

Nope! That's wrong. Sperm are slippery little gets and will work their way round to places you don't want them to be.

[DevilsDuck]

Oooooh, you better warn foot-loose!

[a-moron]

Also I can't help feel that Nicola has just thrown down a challenge to the most virile men now to see who has the magical sperm that can defy near enough impossibility.
*Waits for badger*

Nah, my sperm ain't magical, more probably alcoholic. Think that's why there is a 7 year gap between my 2 kids.
Little drunken swimmers had no damn idea where they should be headed.

I don't want to sound like badger... But... Buggery!

You do really. Admit it.

[bmstinton93]

For anyone who's interested today genuinely went quite well. Katie is coping really well so far while also putting effort into our relationship.

[charlalottie]

That's great but have you told your parents yet?

[bmstinton93]

No it will happen. But everyone who knows my parents who I have told agree with me that right now isn't the right time. If I fall out with them over it then so be it.